The power of positivity

Let's talk about positivity, and its power.

I am convinced that, when you think positive, you will 'gain' positivity as well. 

It might sound a bit watery, a bit 'away from earth', but I think that it is true.
People who think negative, seem always get their portion of negativity. 

Oh, I hope I won't miss the train, works like... I can try, but I will be too late. You will not make a serious attempt to get the train, and even if you try it, you will not run fast enough to get it. And you will be confirmed.. See?  I knew it...  I always have bad luck.
Oh, I have to run fast, then I have chance to get the train, works like, if it not works, at least I tried, and... tadammm, WHEN it works, you have the feeling that you did something good. You made it!

Maybe you can think about examples from your own life. When you feel not good, you can lay in bed all day, think and worry about what you not have.
You can as well  put yourself together, hey, you won't feel less headache, but at least you did do what you can, instead of laying in bed all the time..

I personally think that this kind of mindful thinking can go very far. I know that it is a kind of hype, at the moment, the new psychology, but that are things that not work for me. I look what happens, I try things out, and when it is good, I keep them.
That is... if I have enough power. When I have negative moods, it is not working, of course!  And after such moments, I realize that I have missed a chance.  So,  you can guess what I will try next time.  I keep on trying, how about you?

Season greetings?

Long time I thought about this, and then I decided to post it here, and not at the Facebook platform.  Too many people there, who might be offended.  Here (hardly) anyone reaad, even when I put a link at Facebook (what I will do :-D ). 

Typical, and maybe that is exactly where it is about, even when I want to talk about greeting cards.

It is the most wonderful time of the year, all the sudden we feel the urge to greet each other, wish each other wonderful days and so more.
I remember the time, that we decorated the wall with post cards, from friends and family, what was, for me, always a very nice tradition.
Not sure how it is at your place, but here it definitely changed.   Many people send an email, or, today, a message over Messenger or Whatsapp.  So you can greet 100 people with one click!
But, is more really better?

I see people writing, that they do not send christmas cards this year,  and instead donate to a good purpose.
I love it, when people donate (merry christmas), and it is a good thing to do, for sure.  One click for the good purpose, one click for 100 friends...
Such messages make me wonder.  Do we understand what we are doing?
With christmas, especially then, a lot of people are emotional very open. Memories to  the youth, (good) times,  wishing peace, wishing light, who does not need that (even when you live downunder, lol).

So.... my dear friends...  Here is the idea...  Why not do both?  Send your friends a snail card, AND donate?
When you can not afford both, maybe you can find some space in the christmas pressies, it is not so that the most expensive thing are the most valueable. And select the friends that you really want to send a card, and, eventually, send the rest an e card?
And, for .... sake...  please do NOT rant at the social media, that you donate for a good purpose.  You not need a pat at the back, for spending money for something good.
Send that ....cking  card to your friends.  And take their smile as the biggest reward that you can get.

the ohh and aahhh and ommmm

I think we all know the days that we think 'meh', or that we love to ignore the alarm and hide under the blankets, until it is over.

Days that we feel weak, days that we are not happy,  when we think all is wrong. 
It is normal, natural, and for all healthy, to be weak now and then, your body, your soul, screams for attention when it doesn't get enough.

Most people, at work, at social media, do show an attitude, in what they (want to) get attention.  A smile, a joke, always being positive, the best photos, the best of everything.  If you follow that people, they are everywhere around us, you see a contineous line from happiness, lucky moments, and all that jazz.

It looks like we are ashamed of being weak, now and then. It looks like no one dares to show his/her real emotions. 
Recently, in a training, I saw someone crying.  That is.. there were some tears in the eyes. 
Of course it was a touchy situation, I do not mind tears, I think they are a good expression, just as laughter.  If I cry, I cry fully.  Complete with a running nose, sounds and tears.  So many people do worry more about their make up, then about what is really going on in their soul. 

I think it is important that we now and then show our weaknes. My own experience is, that at  the moment that you show that you are weak, when your emotions bubble up, that you open the people around you as well.  Many people say that they can not handle emotions. I think that that is wrong, we all can, we just need to trust, and not being afraid.  Not being afraid to show it, not being afraid to say, hey, I know what you feel, I have a shoulder, and an ear...
Showing the real you, the real emotions, gives others a possibility to open theirselves as well.

Tear off the mask, and dare to show people who you really are.  Your weakness will turn out to be your strength.  You will use your emotions, the way they are meant to be. To show the real you. To be who you are. Imperfect perfection.

Don't be afraid to show it, you will see that you are not alone!

Make this world Greta.

This commercial was in our central station, in June, and I liked it right away. It was in the time that the young Greta was becoming famous for her 'friday for future'  strikes and her activities for the world climate.
I understand the frustration of people,  when you see what happens with our planet. The pollution is immense, the solutions are far away, and, often hidden by power and money makers, who  prefer to let the things as they are, instead of changing.

History learns us, that people need to get on the street, if they want changes. In this case it started with a very young woman, and meanwhile she is known by everyone.  Friends and foes, I wanted to write, because, as appearantly is normal nowadays, who has ideas has to count with massive attacks, threathenings and insults at the person. Only very strong people can hold that.  And the people who simply stand for what they want and NOT give up. Who simply ignore the violence and not lead the attention away from where it is about making this world a better one. Not only for herself, but for everyone, who can be angry about that?

I see people that I really like, posting 'hate messages', like, the most irritating person of the year, and that is a mild one, all about that Greta Tunberg, who is worried.  Instaad of that we take her worries away, the world is trying to put her in a corner, to let her shut up her opionion.  Not so easy anymore, every day more people join and want solutions, where we ALL on coorporate. We can only improve our life, our future, if we work on it together. And our future is now, so we should hurry up with that! 

So, I see absolutely no reason to hate this woman, for what she is doing.
Why do people, who does not know her, personally, judge her on things that are from the category fake news?  Why are you nerved by seeing the words of a worried young woman?
I should respect you much more, if you not reply to her woreries, what are as well mine (and of MANY others) with hate and agression, but when you say, okay, I want you to go back to school, here I am, I take over the things that you are wishing for us all. Why?  Because it matters all of us. 

satties thoughts

It looks like I write here 7nly on bad says,but that is not true! 
There are no bad days, there are only bad thoughts! 

That fits to something that is in my mind for a longer time, where I wanted to write a poem about it. 
And today is the perfect day for it. 

This summer, when it was so horrible hot
I so much longed for a cloudy spot.
I woke up, seeing nothing but blue
Sweating and not knowing what to do

I did bow down my head
Suffering my self created pain
Please, let it rain
And see, what we, finally, did get

Blessing the depressing grey
Sadly staring to the rain, all day
It reminds me so
To a year ago

But there is something different, this year
The clammy clouds still are here
And the windows still look the same
The memories remain

Memories, at fighting the grey
Memories, struggling all day
And now, I eat the same cook
But now, with a different look

A few weeks ago, on a sunny day
I decided, that I wanted to stay
In the beautiful light
Warm, protected, sunny and bright

I thought about the upcoming grey
Decided that it not feels okay
To feel down all day
My decision came this way

No longer the darkness is stronger
Then the light, day and night
This winter I will smile
The happy feelings will last a while

Happiness is the magic word
Meditation is the chord
I realize I walk a thin line
I love to laugh the rain out of my brain
Where I find happiness again

(c) Hafri Poetry
07-10-2019

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How far will I go here, in reveiling my thoughts?

How safe is my blog?

Not very much, I think.

But, I realize that, and it is a great way to share my photograpy, I think
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St Servaas Brug, Maastricht

A few photos from our trip to Maastricht (NL).


One of the most remarkable views (next to the big church) is the St Servaas Brug


The Sint Servaasbrug (or the St. Servatius Bridge) is an arched stone footbridge across the Meuse River in Maastricht, Netherlands. It is named after Saint Servatius, the first bishop of Maastricht, and (despite being largely rebuilt after World War II) it has been called the oldest bridge in the Netherlands.

The Romans built a wooden bridge across the Meuse in what is now Maastricht, in approximately AD 50, and the Latin phrase for "crossing of the Meuse", "mosae trajectum", became the name of the city. For many years this remained the only crossing of the lower Meuse. However, the Roman bridge collapsed in the year 1275 from the weight of a large procession, killing 400 people.Its replacement, the present bridge, was built somewhat to the north of the older crossing between 1280 and 1298; The Roman Catholic Church encouraged its construction by providing indulgences to people who helped build it. The bridge was accoladed in honor of Saint Servatius  this time.

The bridge was renovated in 1680, and in 1825 a wooden strutwork section on the east side of the bridge was replaced by a stone arch. In 1850, as part of the construction of the Maastricht-Liège Canal, a channel was cut on the west side of the bridge.

When in the early 1930s the bridge had been relieved of its function as the city's only river crossing by the construction of the Wilhelmina bridge, 300 metres (1,000 ft) downstream, a major renovation was performed. The arches were reconstructed in concrete, covered with the original stones. Underwater, counter-arches were constructed to prevent erosion of the river bed on which the bridge was built. Two arches on the eastern end of the bridge were removed and replaced by a vertical-lift bridge. Between the two bridges, on the eastern side of the river, a levee was built to separate the navigable eastern channel from the rest of the river.

During World War II the bridge was severely damaged by the German army as they retreated from the Netherlands in 1944, but it was rebuilt in 1948. In 1962, the shipping channel to the east of the bridge was spanned by a steel drawbridge attached to the main bridge

Dicke Bohne

Dicke Bohne?

Ahh broad beans ( forever connected to O.F.L. Jon )

Yesterday, me and Markus made a little photowalk in Schloss Benrath, one of the beautiful residences/castle parks that are here all around.

Beautiful buildings, a great place for wedding photos (and before you start guessing, nope, we won't do that!), and for photos in general (yay!).

We were there, had, as usual, a nice time and good photographing.

In the biologic garden, we were asked, if we wanted those Dicke Bohnen, fresh cropped, too much for sale in the stand there.
Well, no, I mean yes, sure! 
And so we both were carrying a meal of broad beans between our photo equipment, during the rest of the walk.

Then we had a chat, about climate change, alternative packages, and I looked to the broad beans, packed in a white plastic bag.

D@m that!

It takes a very long time to think in the better way! 

The more, when I realized, that I do have such a re-useable mini bag, as standard, in my photo bag.

Sigh, how much we forget to take effort, or, in my case, forget to think?
How long it needs, before grocery stuff is NOT offered in plastic anymore?

Do we have time, to waste?

The beans tasted delicious, with the liver (calf, of course, from our local butcher, local meat), yum!

And the plastic bag is used again, of course, but it gave the meal an unexpected taste!

Give peace a chance

Did the title bring you an earworm?

Then you might be in an age, that you know about meditation.

I not  talk  about LSD or yoga teachers, but I recently picked up meditation again.

I think my mind deserves 15  minutes each day for itself.

Good readers may have noticed, that I struggle with several things, and they did not get better.
It is not a cold, or a flue, I refuse to name it here, but many of us know what I mean.

I think everything happens for a reason. A few months ago, I had  good chat, and we talked about methods, to make our minds feel more relaxed and positive.

So, I looked up at google, found too many "solutions" to heal, until one day, that I read something intresting.
Telling that not your brain is the master, but that I, myself, can (and should) control the brain.

I decide what the brain should think.
When my brain takes free play, I can tell my brain, to stop that.
When things get bad, I can observe, what the brain is doing. This way I also can see, what exactly is happening.
At that moment,  I am no part of the madness, but I am the controller, and I can decide what my brain will do, in the next minutes.

After a few days repeating, I start to see how it works.

The 10 minutes become a part of life, it is like drinking coffee, without coffee.
The moments of drifting away, not need to do anything, and especially no thinking (I can decide what my brain should do or not, remember?), give room in my brain.
I can use this space, to put my thoughts together. Less chaos, more space... see where it leads to?
When I open my eyes, look into our tiny room, seeing the chaos....
What I can do with my brain, I can do with the mess as well.
Because the only one, who decides how things go...
Is me.

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Japan day in Düsseldorf

Due to technical issues, my photo site www.saturnsworld.de, can not be updated 

Coffee to no.

Let's talk about the climate.

Let's talk about the name climate change, and never use that word again.

Why not?  Because a change, is a natural thing. We change the place we live, we can change our job, our attitude, all kind of things that we can change, and that we can live on with.
The crisis in the climate is different.  That 'change'  is not a choice.  It is happening and we can not change the change.  It is a crisis, because we all can see what is happening, and it shows now rapidly, everywhere.  What we all neglected, in the past, now is reality for us.  It is a crisis, more then a change.

Crises seem to be a red ribbon in my present, and the climate is not different.  I should love to change things, but maybe, for some changes, it is too late...

Wrong Hans!  It is not too late!  It only is too late if you give up, ignore, and let it happen.
A change can be made now, and it is wonderful to see so many people participating. More and more people help, in their way, think and take some action.

As you know, I love photography. 
As you might know, I like to add my minion to some photos.
As you know, when you know me long enough, I am always willing to voice against things that happen, of what I think that they are no good.
So, why not combining those all.
As you all know, or SHOULD know, I love coffee.

From now on, I will act, peacefully, at Coffee to go.
Personally I will not take any Coffee takeaway anymore, if I can not have it in my own mug. Yes, I need to carry it with me, and I have to clean it, clean my hands and so more.   So what?  Nothing wrong with that, and cleaning up is a thing where it is all about, right?

I just want to drop this idea here.  Just as an example from that it is not always big, what we need to change. We must just act. 

Here are the photos about Coffee to no, from my sunday morning walk.  I made (of course) more photos, but these are the coffee mugs, that I gathered and put into a waste bin.
You will see them more, in the future. And my target is reached, when I can not find any one at all anymore.

Let's make this world better, let's just start, and not wait until others do.

So, now I deserved my coffee, I think. 
Coffee to no.  Because we are worth it!

Mothers' day

Today it is Mothers Day

Not in England, not in the UK at all. Brexit is nothing new :) :)

But, in a lot of countries, it is mothers'  day. We could all see it in the shops, the past weeks, the prices of perfumes, chocolate and flowers went up, and all the sudden Mother seemed to be the most important word of business.

We all have a mother, also we all are able to rely on this. When our mother is gone (likemine), it is a day on what we can look back, and think for a moment, at what she meant for us.
When our mother is there, we can celebrate it. We can give gifts, and we can visit our mom.
And I personally think, that the best thing that people can give their mom, at Mothers' day, is to make sure, that she will not be forgotten. That gift lasts longer then a bunch of flowers, or a weekend in a wellness oasis (what the......, I should be angry with such gift, I  think I am good enough 'the way I am'  :) LOL) 

And then, I read at facebook. 
Mothers who feel not like being mothers, because their children hurt her. Sometimes I hate Facebook, for giving us the possibility to share our sadnes.  Is it helpful to get a thumb up when you are feeling low and out?
 Mothers with big cakes. Next week we see the photos of mom in the gym., the gift from the other child..
Mothers with (grand)children.  Ah yes, lovely.  Happy faces!  I love happy faces!
Every day of the year.  And I love my mother. Even when no one in my family believes me.  Oh oh.... Now I do the same.... Telling my blog my private sorrows..  Or not? 
I did my good deed, for my mother today.  Making a step into the direction, that she always loved to see me in. It is up to me. I have the chance to make things better.   I can not tell her anymore about it, but I think she will see it. And, if I am lucky, she sends me a sign, like she always does, when it is good. 

I look to it, until I find it.  And it not necessarily needs to be mothers' day, to find it.  And, I not only love my mother, today, and every other day of my life.  Just saying :)

Letting go

There is that song that goes .. the hardest part of love, is letting go.

Who has children, can rely on that.
Who has lost a lovely person, as well

But, it is as well the only way we can go.  Letting go, is what to do, when you really want the other to be free.
And, most important, if you, yourself, need a freedom, what you can not gain with the other.

I think that is the magic word in this.. Freedom.
What is a relation, or a friendship, worth, when it all depends on the wishes and desires of one?
What is a friendship worth, if the other is so busy with his own doings, that (s)he barely takes time for you? What when you ask for a word, and there is never time for it, when YOU need it, but it has to be at the time that the other has nothing (better) to do?

People can call me friend, and I love it, but it is not always friendship, what the other means.
We learn it the hard way.  I have not many friends, but the friends that I do have, are loyal, and always there when I need them.  They let me free, I let them 'go', and we know that we will always be able to find each other again. When it is needed, an open  ear or eye is there. And then is distance not an excuse. Either is 'I have no time'.
If you really want to be there for the other, lend him/her an ear.  Listen to what (s)he has to say.  Just listen.. you need not to solve the problems from others.

Sometimes friendships change. And then, all the sudden, it is a one way love.  You will get hurt from it, until the moment that you realize, that you are acting all the way to please, or get attention from, the other. You change your schedule. You answer the phone when (s)he calls, and when you calls, there is no time.
Let it go.
If you love yourself, then don't let yourself being hurted by the other.
You are too much worth, to dance the rythm of someone else, who is dancing at his/her own music.

Kick the ball in the goal of the other, instead of waiting for the shot at yours.

Break free..  Let go.  It is the hardest way, but it is very much worth it!

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Good Friday /Karfreitag

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Good Friday

A day to get to rest.

To leave the thoughts,
And being simply you.

Everything changes, every time again

And, surely in our world from faster and more, it often is difficult to find this rest.
And to keep it.

I do hope, that you can use this day, to be simply you

Everything is fine, now
You are fine, now

Your lufe is fine now.

Sure we all should like to see things changing
Less stress, less pain

I think that it is helpful already, when you face the things as they are, now.

Now, as in at this moment.
Now, also, not next year, next month, not tomorrow.

Enjoy the moment.  I hope you enjoy reading this
I did enjoy writing the blog, and I like that you read it! <3 br="">
And later, I will enjoy what comes at my path. I look forward it, but... I enjoy the now a little bit more :)

Karfreitag

Einen Tag um zu Ruhe zu kommen.

Die Gedanken zu lassen,
Und einfach dichselbst zu sein.

Alles ändert sich, immer wieder

Und, sicher  in unserem Welt voll mitschneller und mehr, fallt es manchmal schwer, die Ruhe zu finden.
Und dann zu behalten.

Ich hoffe, das Ihr diesen Tag benützen kann, um einfach dichselbst zu sein

Es ist gut so.
Du bist gut so.

Dein Leben ist gut do.

Natürlich möchtet man manchmal etwas ändern.
Weniger Stress, weniger Schmerzen

Ich denke, das es schon hilft, wenn Du alles sieht so wie sue sind.
Jetzt, auf diese Moment.
Jetzt, also nicht nächstes Jahr, nächste Monat, nicht Morgen.

Freue dich, über was möglicherweise mal kommt.
Freue dich mehr, über was jetzt ist.

Ich habe mir gefreut, dieses Blog zu schreiben, und ich freue mich das Du es liest.

Und gleich freue ich mich über... ähmm.. ich lass mich von dem Moment überrasschen

On fire

So, one of the most important buildings, in History, in the world, did get on fire and is (partially)  destroyed.   Horrible, I shed some tears about it.

There are, of course, worse things happening, and there are less worse things happening. 
The worst thing that happened, were the reaction of some people. 
First, as expected, the haters (right winged) came up with that it most likely was an attack, or a damage on purpose from one of the workers in the Cathedral.  Disgusting, enough said!

It was great, to see that people started to spend money, for a quck rebuilding.  Bang... another tear.

And, of course, on that came some reactions a welll.  Such as.. the church is rich enough, they not need that money...  And of course the royal millions from people who have a lot of money, will not hurt those people, but... it proves that they do care.  Even if it might be a publicity deed, it still is a lot of money that they donate, and  I think the world can be happy with it, when the Notre Dame is rebuild fast and good.

It is, of course, a bit bitter, when we see the poor people, holding up their hands for one or two Euro, or the refugees, that are not welcome, and then, in this case, a happy spended amount what could have saved many people too.. 
But, let's be frank and honest.   There should be not a single person more be helped, when this disaster had not taken place.
There should not have been any more people saved.

Let's not take sides in this.  It is not worth it.  It is good, that this money came, so spontaneous.  And if you really care about others, who get nothinig... Well... do something!  Donate, support the workers or whatever.  Only that way you can prove, how important people are.  Life matters!

Leaving Twitter

Oh, what a blog title.  So dramatic!

Yes, it is true, I am leaving Twitter.  I will not give up my account, but I will not use it very much anymore.
I will use it to share my photos, incidentically, and that is it.

It is already a longer time that I do not check the messages at Twitter.  I stopped doing it, while I had that strange feeling in my head, between being curious and being frustrated.
There is so much hate, people write so much, without feeling restricted.  Hate speeches, bullying, heaven knows what all more.

There was a point that I knew that,when I checked Twitter, I should find hate, violence, and all the other things that I not wanted to find.

With the arrival of the idiot of America on it, it has became even worse. He is in that a trend setter, but of course, everyone, in person, is responsible for his own behavior.
For me Social Media are nice, to contact with friends, and to share information,  mainly photos and poetry.  But I always said, that I stay, as long as it makes fun.

Therefore, bye bye Twitter, and hello to all of you, who can read me elsewhere.

The King

3 Kings came, from far
To see the new born King
They did follow a star
And were convinced that it should bring them
To that important place

I do believe in fairy tales
They make me smile, for all
Because they lead to a peaceful place
Where you don't beat your head
Against the wall

(c)  2018  HaFri Poetry

Happy new year. A walk in the rain

Happy new year, for who ever reads this!

2019 started today. New plans, expectatitions, let's see what will happen.

Today was a rainy day and I made a short walk. Just because I do not care about rain