Random thoughts, chapter .1.273.475

I think everyone should know what (s)he posts at internet, in the social media. And that is exactly what is happening. Good!

But, 

when people are so excited about their hoolidays, that they need to post photos about the preparations, the turning back, and of course many, many photos about their trip?  Or posting about 200 or more photos about a concert you went to?
It reminds me about an uncle that came to us, and we were always a bit afraid about the suitcase he carreid. If the black one was with him, it meant that we could watch dias/light photos for an evening. Uncle here, uncle there, uncle with flowers, flowers without uncle, unclee without flowers.. Help....

Luckily the computer has a scroll function, you can choose the own speed to get thrugh the information. And you not need to see it as well.  Who knows me a bit, knows that, when you act that way, that you can get silly reactions, in what I indirectly say, it is enough.  But when I really not want to see it, I just can skip it and keep my mouth (or fingers) shut.  Why should I take away the fun from the people who are so enthisastic?  Other then with Uncle G, we not need to see it.  And we not need to react as well.

Why are some people, who are married, posting 'word wisdoms'  on what is told how much they regret to be married?  Should that be fun, or is there another  reason behind it?   Definitely I have my thoughts when I see similar postings coming from both partners. 

Is it so that the social media are becoming the legal way of commuicate with each other?  So that you can sit together at the couch and then use Messengers to tell the other to f.. off?  (or the other way around, but that is rarely seen -until now-).

Shouldn't we use the social media as how it is meant?  It tells Social... not anti social.. 

 Respect each other. Make fun, and if a joke is not done, then tell the other about it. And if you want to say your partner somethng..  remember that it is always possible to speak with each other. Don't be scared to argue.  Love can handle that and, at the end (as my Auntie always said, there is a way to make it all good again. And that is not from the last 20 years, it works aas long as people live  :) 

Gone too soon

And another one is gone too soon

There are so many people, and not only in the music scene, that go too soon!

Now Chester Bennington ended his life, a lot of people are in shock (again) and the records will sell better then ever.  

Why?

Why do peeple go too soon?
Is it a (mind) illness, that they can not stop, that ends their life before it is time?
Is it the person itself, who decides that it is time, and therefore for him(her)self the right moment, but for the rest of the people around them it still is way too soon?

I guess we never know exactly why people decide to end their life.  I do not think it is a free will, I am convinced that it is, for them, the only way that they see to get out of their life.

My first reaction is anger, because how does anyone dare to do this, to his beloved, to his family, to his friends?  There are plenty of ways that you can get help, so WHY do you do this to all the people around you?
When I calm down, I realize that the decission to end life too soon, is not an easy one.  What are the last things you think, the last things you do (aparrt from preparing your departure)?  

I can not decide for others, what is the best solution for their problems. I think that we all might have moments, on what we see no other solution then going ... too soon.  But most of us do not go too soon.  They do not have the guts to  go too soon. Or they do care too much, to let go.  When you want to go, and you can not go... 

Good, that are just a few reflections.  Every time I read a message, that one stepped out of this life, too soon, the memories come up, to people  that I know that did take such steps before. And I feel sad, because I know that there will be others that will follow. Too soon.

Now it is hes the singer of Linkin Park, and all the sudden he has a name that we won't forget.
Is he gone too soon?  Or does he live forever, in our hearts?  Maybe he does, for a while. And then he becomes a name, a number, and we slowly add him in the row, with the many others, like Janis, Jimmi, Bon, Kurt..... and all the others, that I just forgot...  but who are gone too soon.

Freedom of ...

Freedom of speach is a very valueable thing.

Other then in America, where the orange president forces his party members to vote correctly, otherwise they can't go into holidays,,  we have freedom to say and vote what we want.

It seems that there are more and more people who want to say a thing, about anything, but it is not always clear why people make their comments.
Yes, I talk about photos again.  It seems that I am slowly reaching a category in what people notice my photos, and then find a reason to react.

Such as this photo, what I made with my mobile phone, and edited, just a tiny little bit, to get the clouds more dominant.
In a short time the photo is liked by over 200 people, and, even when I always say likes do not matter, it is still nice to see that so many people like the photo!

But, there are always people who find it necessary to say some negative about it.  And I do not mind a critical note, at all. But when the remark comes as an attempt to make the photo/posting a laugh, then I wonder why people do so. Then, be streight and say, hey, I think it is bullshite, disagree with the other 200 people because you know what you are talking about.

A (sick) joker gets always people who laugh with them.  But the only way that I value your comments is when they make sense. Even when I not agree, I still can respect you. But when you make a laugh out of me, I simply have no other reply then shrugging the soulders.
I think freedom of speech is a very good and valueable thing. However, it should not hurt some people to think before speaking (or writining).

Privacy

Let's talk about privacy.

I think we all make more (or less) thoughts about our privacy.  In our house we have the doors closed, locked, and have only access for people that we allow to come in.  In some cultures and countries that is more strict, in other less. Fact is that we do not let everyone enter our properties, and if we do, it is from free will. We also want to know who is coming to us. The doors are only opened when we know that we want the person in.

How different that is with internet.  How much privacy do you need there?  For how many 'strangers' your doors are open?  Not to speak from the unwanted visitors, who simply come around while they see the door open (or have a key for it) and of who you never will be aware.

I understand, and respect when people do not want their photos to be seen at internet. It is why I can not show my grandson, for example, even how much I like to do so. So, I wont.
And when people do not want to see their photos at the internet, fine. Just let me know and I won't show.

Still, it surprises me,  when people do want their own (photo) privacy, and do not hesitate to post photos from others in public. Take one way, or the other, that's less confusing and makes sense.

(Someone reacted, I can't find the reaction, but still want to say something about it)

This blog is meant as a reflection of the facts I see in the behavior of people. If people feel attacked, then I can not help it, as well as their reactions.

The right on privacy for everyone is undiscussed! 
When people appear at photos, unwanted, in public, at my postings or photos, then a private message is enough to get them deleted.

Proud drinker

Understand me correctly

I do not mind when people drink. I do not even mind when people drink alcohl. And I don't mind when people get a bit funny when they drink a bit more.

What I not understand,, is why people are bragging about drinking too much?
I am no angel, and I think most of us have the experience of having drank too much alcohol, at least once in a lifetime.

Nowadays it looks like 'the world'  needs to brag about the many drinks that they had.  Facebook turns in the weekend to a place where people post discussable photos, and discussable remarks, who are clearly caused by drinking alcohol.
The amount of people that drink in the street,  bus, train, I can't remember that it was so common in eearlier years.

I think I get too old for this. No, I am not.  I never was a huge drinker of alcohl.  I like a drink, a good wine, whisky or a few beers. And that's basically it.

I see around me, almost daily, what alcohol can do to people.  It is hard for me to take people serious who brag about the amount of alcohl, or the state of alcohl they are in. It is not funny, it is just embarrassing.

Now shoot me for this.  I will lean back and watch your reactions. Maybe I drink a beer with it. Maybe not. 

Randoms

Why is someone every time again upsetting me, especially when it comes to ntionalism, and I still have to react on it?  Why do I not just leave it for what it is?

Why does it hurt me so much when people violate others?  Shouldn't I mind my own business instead?

Why do I hate to see a big country (the land of the free)  changing rapidly in a war machine?

Why do I dislike it, to see people that sit every day at the market drinking coffee? Why do I not just let them, instead of asking them if they have nothing better to do?

More randoms to come

Celebration time

I think everyone has the right to celebrate.  It is a form of expressing your feelings, being happy. For yourself, for others.

And many of us celebrate as well for their country. Today there is a big country celebrating the 4th of July, and a lot of people are showing that.  just like the Canadian did do that a few days ago, and just like the French will do that in a couple of days.

I hope that everyone who celebrates, wil do that in respect for each other. And as well in respect for the people who not want to celebrate.  There must be space for that as well.  If someone (hmm, could it be me? LOL)  is not so keen on it, that should be respected as well.

I experienced that, also in this, there is less tolerance then a while ago. I noticed that more and more people take the 'I do ot want to participate'  as a 'you are against 'us'.  
That is so wrong!
When someone tells me I am against (in this case) America, because I do not prticipate in the excitement, then I think that those persons have a very narrow mind.
They listen only to the words that upset them.  Who is not with us, is against us, sounds so much like war propaganda, and that scares me.

I wish everyone a wonderful day, wonderful firework and so more, today in America, on other days in other countries.  And I think that you only have the right to be proud at your country, if you can respect that there are people who think diffferent.  
Spread your view at the world, quit your narrow mind, we are all God's people, love knows no borders.