Facebook --- again

Let's talk about Facebook

Again?

Yes, again.

Because, we are part of it.  We almost all are part of it, and it is a problem!
It is a problem, that Social Media (for all FaceBook) takes so much of our time.  When I was in the queue in the shopping mall, before me a man was checking his facebook. I am not a stalker, but I saw the F app lightening up at his handy, and he almost 'forgot'  to pay, I guess he had a very important message coming in.

Just like the girl that passed the street, and for only a few centimeters 'missed'  the ER car, what was coming around the corner. It was a narrow escape, but it happens more then we realize!

Anyway, my 'problem'  today with FB and Co is, the messages that come.

Unfortunately there were a few bad things happenng, in Germany there were some bad incidents as well.
Now I am following a few news groups, so I am informed pretty well about what happens.
Now, my friends seem to follow the news as well,and they think it is okay to share the news as well.
Result:  I got about 50 messages in my news feed, about each attack.

What happens, when you see bad news so many times?  What does it do with your psyche?
There is a reason that I do not watch the news on tv, because, it is so often the same. I am good informed, anyway, and when I hear that bad news often, it makes me feel sick, worried, helpless, all the things that are not good for me.

People who spread the news, are not aware of this, of course.  I think that it is as well a thing that is used to influence us.  When we read 100 times about the german killer, we believe that every german is a killer and that we are no where safe.
It is like the troll in our head.  It is not true, but it is connstantly tricking us, and convincing us that we are in danger, that the things are bad, and it makes our psyche react, without that we really want to. No one wants to be in panic, no one wants to be depressive. But this agresive way of communicating makes it more easy, and the hate preachers use it, to influence the people as well.  As I described above, I think it goes much further than thatt.


Is it a reason to skip facebook to the 'was nice, next please* ???  No, not yet, and not at all.

It is a reason to consider who I will follow.  My true friends (I know who they are!) are not the big posters of this kind of messages. But there are a few, that leave no opportunity unused to show the hate, the disaster.
I not need photos of killed animals, to care for their health!  And I not need to see terror, to know that we should love each other, every day!

Selecting friends and groups that I follow.  Less is more. I think we all need the balance, betweeen good and evil. And the only one who can make that, are we, ourselves.

Less is more, I think.
And there it is, another try to use the 'new media'  in a healthy way.

And I am sure I will write more about Fb, later

Sturmfrei .... wtf?

At the moment that I write this, the sun is shining, as if it is spring already, on a beautiful Friday, the next horror messages are coming out of the media. Radio and TV.
Everything is preparing for a stormy weekend, in what we expect, next to the normal rain, a storm, with possible windspeed as in a hurricane (140 Km p H)

So, appearantly it is pretty easy to forecast this, what makes our part of  the country preparing. In the schools will be closed on monday, 'sturmfrei', also free for storm. 
Yes...  Storm Free...To prevent our scholars for worse...

Well, call me old fashioned, but I do not understand such things very well.
I remember the time when we were young (yes, that is a while ago), that we had to go at our bicycles, or if not, by foot, walking, to school when the weather was bad. When there was snow, rain, and also when there was a storm coming up. 
I can not remember that there has been one day, that we did not have to go to school, no matter the weather.  Of course it is good that 'we'  can better foresee what all comes to us, so that we not need to bring ourselves in danger, but.....
When the situation is so serious, why are only scholars prevented?  Why do other groups of  people still have to risk rheir lifes, to go to their shops, to serve people, who appearantly better should stay home, just like the scholars and teachers?

It confuses me, it gives me headaches. Maybe I better stay home, and see if I can get out on Monday.  Oh no.. wait, then not. Oh, why not, I am not a scholar, so I can.   Help.... :)

your choice

Oh, is this about elections?

Well, maybe it is, maybe it isn't.

It is about choices, that we all have to make.
Meanwhile, we see that there is a change in how to act.

Was it a long time fine to listen to the opinion from another, now it seems more like you are pro-  or against someone.
With upcoming elections you see, especially in the social media, more and more 'slogans' coming up.. The reason why I do vote for... and then a few  photos, or words, as ugly as possible,, from an opponent.
There is no space for nuances, not a considering, why the arguements from others are not good.
Discussions come not further then... it is MY opinion, and if you don't like it,  live with it.


Well,  apart then that it is true, that I do not need to follow YOUR opinion, I always try to find out why people do things.
Why is the little guy in school bullying a few others?  What is behind it?  Do we accept it as normal, or do we try to find out what is wrong, so that he might be able to stop bullying (when he knows that he has an alternative way to feel better, for example).

When we can not discss anymore, then we drift away in two camps.  You like what I do, or you don't. And in the end no one knows why we are 'against'  the other, just because his hair is orange, or that he has a strange nose...

I keep on trying to find out why people are who they are, act how they act.
I never shall accept violence, bullying, discrimination.  To name a few.
But I can try to let others see what consequences their behavior has. And I can try to find out, where the agression comes from. 

In my world is no place for violence, even when I, now and then, find myself  guilty as well, in thinking bad without any reason.
In my world is place for love and understanding.
Yes, I know, those words are a bit uncool, those days, but it is a fact, that love is the only way to peace.

Look at yourself.  Can you leave in peace with yourself, without that you love yourself, for what you are, for what you do? It is your choice, to make your world better or not!

The power of positivity

Let's talk about positivity, and its power.

I am convinced that, when you think positive, you will 'gain' positivity as well. 

It might sound a bit watery, a bit 'away from earth', but I think that it is true.
People who think negative, seem always get their portion of negativity. 

Oh, I hope I won't miss the train, works like... I can try, but I will be too late. You will not make a serious attempt to get the train, and even if you try it, you will not run fast enough to get it. And you will be confirmed.. See?  I knew it...  I always have bad luck.
Oh, I have to run fast, then I have chance to get the train, works like, if it not works, at least I tried, and... tadammm, WHEN it works, you have the feeling that you did something good. You made it!

Maybe you can think about examples from your own life. When you feel not good, you can lay in bed all day, think and worry about what you not have.
You can as well  put yourself together, hey, you won't feel less headache, but at least you did do what you can, instead of laying in bed all the time..

I personally think that this kind of mindful thinking can go very far. I know that it is a kind of hype, at the moment, the new psychology, but that are things that not work for me. I look what happens, I try things out, and when it is good, I keep them.
That is... if I have enough power. When I have negative moods, it is not working, of course!  And after such moments, I realize that I have missed a chance.  So,  you can guess what I will try next time.  I keep on trying, how about you?

Season greetings?

Long time I thought about this, and then I decided to post it here, and not at the Facebook platform.  Too many people there, who might be offended.  Here (hardly) anyone reaad, even when I put a link at Facebook (what I will do :-D ). 

Typical, and maybe that is exactly where it is about, even when I want to talk about greeting cards.

It is the most wonderful time of the year, all the sudden we feel the urge to greet each other, wish each other wonderful days and so more.
I remember the time, that we decorated the wall with post cards, from friends and family, what was, for me, always a very nice tradition.
Not sure how it is at your place, but here it definitely changed.   Many people send an email, or, today, a message over Messenger or Whatsapp.  So you can greet 100 people with one click!
But, is more really better?

I see people writing, that they do not send christmas cards this year,  and instead donate to a good purpose.
I love it, when people donate (merry christmas), and it is a good thing to do, for sure.  One click for the good purpose, one click for 100 friends...
Such messages make me wonder.  Do we understand what we are doing?
With christmas, especially then, a lot of people are emotional very open. Memories to  the youth, (good) times,  wishing peace, wishing light, who does not need that (even when you live downunder, lol).

So.... my dear friends...  Here is the idea...  Why not do both?  Send your friends a snail card, AND donate?
When you can not afford both, maybe you can find some space in the christmas pressies, it is not so that the most expensive thing are the most valueable. And select the friends that you really want to send a card, and, eventually, send the rest an e card?
And, for .... sake...  please do NOT rant at the social media, that you donate for a good purpose.  You not need a pat at the back, for spending money for something good.
Send that ....cking  card to your friends.  And take their smile as the biggest reward that you can get.

the ohh and aahhh and ommmm

I think we all know the days that we think 'meh', or that we love to ignore the alarm and hide under the blankets, until it is over.

Days that we feel weak, days that we are not happy,  when we think all is wrong. 
It is normal, natural, and for all healthy, to be weak now and then, your body, your soul, screams for attention when it doesn't get enough.

Most people, at work, at social media, do show an attitude, in what they (want to) get attention.  A smile, a joke, always being positive, the best photos, the best of everything.  If you follow that people, they are everywhere around us, you see a contineous line from happiness, lucky moments, and all that jazz.

It looks like we are ashamed of being weak, now and then. It looks like no one dares to show his/her real emotions. 
Recently, in a training, I saw someone crying.  That is.. there were some tears in the eyes. 
Of course it was a touchy situation, I do not mind tears, I think they are a good expression, just as laughter.  If I cry, I cry fully.  Complete with a running nose, sounds and tears.  So many people do worry more about their make up, then about what is really going on in their soul. 

I think it is important that we now and then show our weaknes. My own experience is, that at  the moment that you show that you are weak, when your emotions bubble up, that you open the people around you as well.  Many people say that they can not handle emotions. I think that that is wrong, we all can, we just need to trust, and not being afraid.  Not being afraid to show it, not being afraid to say, hey, I know what you feel, I have a shoulder, and an ear...
Showing the real you, the real emotions, gives others a possibility to open theirselves as well.

Tear off the mask, and dare to show people who you really are.  Your weakness will turn out to be your strength.  You will use your emotions, the way they are meant to be. To show the real you. To be who you are. Imperfect perfection.

Don't be afraid to show it, you will see that you are not alone!

Make this world Greta.

This commercial was in our central station, in June, and I liked it right away. It was in the time that the young Greta was becoming famous for her 'friday for future'  strikes and her activities for the world climate.
I understand the frustration of people,  when you see what happens with our planet. The pollution is immense, the solutions are far away, and, often hidden by power and money makers, who  prefer to let the things as they are, instead of changing.

History learns us, that people need to get on the street, if they want changes. In this case it started with a very young woman, and meanwhile she is known by everyone.  Friends and foes, I wanted to write, because, as appearantly is normal nowadays, who has ideas has to count with massive attacks, threathenings and insults at the person. Only very strong people can hold that.  And the people who simply stand for what they want and NOT give up. Who simply ignore the violence and not lead the attention away from where it is about making this world a better one. Not only for herself, but for everyone, who can be angry about that?

I see people that I really like, posting 'hate messages', like, the most irritating person of the year, and that is a mild one, all about that Greta Tunberg, who is worried.  Instaad of that we take her worries away, the world is trying to put her in a corner, to let her shut up her opionion.  Not so easy anymore, every day more people join and want solutions, where we ALL on coorporate. We can only improve our life, our future, if we work on it together. And our future is now, so we should hurry up with that! 

So, I see absolutely no reason to hate this woman, for what she is doing.
Why do people, who does not know her, personally, judge her on things that are from the category fake news?  Why are you nerved by seeing the words of a worried young woman?
I should respect you much more, if you not reply to her woreries, what are as well mine (and of MANY others) with hate and agression, but when you say, okay, I want you to go back to school, here I am, I take over the things that you are wishing for us all. Why?  Because it matters all of us.