your choice

Oh, is this about elections?

Well, maybe it is, maybe it isn't.

It is about choices, that we all have to make.
Meanwhile, we see that there is a change in how to act.

Was it a long time fine to listen to the opinion from another, now it seems more like you are pro-  or against someone.
With upcoming elections you see, especially in the social media, more and more 'slogans' coming up.. The reason why I do vote for... and then a few  photos, or words, as ugly as possible,, from an opponent.
There is no space for nuances, not a considering, why the arguements from others are not good.
Discussions come not further then... it is MY opinion, and if you don't like it,  live with it.


Well,  apart then that it is true, that I do not need to follow YOUR opinion, I always try to find out why people do things.
Why is the little guy in school bullying a few others?  What is behind it?  Do we accept it as normal, or do we try to find out what is wrong, so that he might be able to stop bullying (when he knows that he has an alternative way to feel better, for example).

When we can not discss anymore, then we drift away in two camps.  You like what I do, or you don't. And in the end no one knows why we are 'against'  the other, just because his hair is orange, or that he has a strange nose...

I keep on trying to find out why people are who they are, act how they act.
I never shall accept violence, bullying, discrimination.  To name a few.
But I can try to let others see what consequences their behavior has. And I can try to find out, where the agression comes from. 

In my world is no place for violence, even when I, now and then, find myself  guilty as well, in thinking bad without any reason.
In my world is place for love and understanding.
Yes, I know, those words are a bit uncool, those days, but it is a fact, that love is the only way to peace.

Look at yourself.  Can you leave in peace with yourself, without that you love yourself, for what you are, for what you do? It is your choice, to make your world better or not!

The power of positivity

Let's talk about positivity, and its power.

I am convinced that, when you think positive, you will 'gain' positivity as well. 

It might sound a bit watery, a bit 'away from earth', but I think that it is true.
People who think negative, seem always get their portion of negativity. 

Oh, I hope I won't miss the train, works like... I can try, but I will be too late. You will not make a serious attempt to get the train, and even if you try it, you will not run fast enough to get it. And you will be confirmed.. See?  I knew it...  I always have bad luck.
Oh, I have to run fast, then I have chance to get the train, works like, if it not works, at least I tried, and... tadammm, WHEN it works, you have the feeling that you did something good. You made it!

Maybe you can think about examples from your own life. When you feel not good, you can lay in bed all day, think and worry about what you not have.
You can as well  put yourself together, hey, you won't feel less headache, but at least you did do what you can, instead of laying in bed all the time..

I personally think that this kind of mindful thinking can go very far. I know that it is a kind of hype, at the moment, the new psychology, but that are things that not work for me. I look what happens, I try things out, and when it is good, I keep them.
That is... if I have enough power. When I have negative moods, it is not working, of course!  And after such moments, I realize that I have missed a chance.  So,  you can guess what I will try next time.  I keep on trying, how about you?

Season greetings?

Long time I thought about this, and then I decided to post it here, and not at the Facebook platform.  Too many people there, who might be offended.  Here (hardly) anyone reaad, even when I put a link at Facebook (what I will do :-D ). 

Typical, and maybe that is exactly where it is about, even when I want to talk about greeting cards.

It is the most wonderful time of the year, all the sudden we feel the urge to greet each other, wish each other wonderful days and so more.
I remember the time, that we decorated the wall with post cards, from friends and family, what was, for me, always a very nice tradition.
Not sure how it is at your place, but here it definitely changed.   Many people send an email, or, today, a message over Messenger or Whatsapp.  So you can greet 100 people with one click!
But, is more really better?

I see people writing, that they do not send christmas cards this year,  and instead donate to a good purpose.
I love it, when people donate (merry christmas), and it is a good thing to do, for sure.  One click for the good purpose, one click for 100 friends...
Such messages make me wonder.  Do we understand what we are doing?
With christmas, especially then, a lot of people are emotional very open. Memories to  the youth, (good) times,  wishing peace, wishing light, who does not need that (even when you live downunder, lol).

So.... my dear friends...  Here is the idea...  Why not do both?  Send your friends a snail card, AND donate?
When you can not afford both, maybe you can find some space in the christmas pressies, it is not so that the most expensive thing are the most valueable. And select the friends that you really want to send a card, and, eventually, send the rest an e card?
And, for .... sake...  please do NOT rant at the social media, that you donate for a good purpose.  You not need a pat at the back, for spending money for something good.
Send that ....cking  card to your friends.  And take their smile as the biggest reward that you can get.

the ohh and aahhh and ommmm

I think we all know the days that we think 'meh', or that we love to ignore the alarm and hide under the blankets, until it is over.

Days that we feel weak, days that we are not happy,  when we think all is wrong. 
It is normal, natural, and for all healthy, to be weak now and then, your body, your soul, screams for attention when it doesn't get enough.

Most people, at work, at social media, do show an attitude, in what they (want to) get attention.  A smile, a joke, always being positive, the best photos, the best of everything.  If you follow that people, they are everywhere around us, you see a contineous line from happiness, lucky moments, and all that jazz.

It looks like we are ashamed of being weak, now and then. It looks like no one dares to show his/her real emotions. 
Recently, in a training, I saw someone crying.  That is.. there were some tears in the eyes. 
Of course it was a touchy situation, I do not mind tears, I think they are a good expression, just as laughter.  If I cry, I cry fully.  Complete with a running nose, sounds and tears.  So many people do worry more about their make up, then about what is really going on in their soul. 

I think it is important that we now and then show our weaknes. My own experience is, that at  the moment that you show that you are weak, when your emotions bubble up, that you open the people around you as well.  Many people say that they can not handle emotions. I think that that is wrong, we all can, we just need to trust, and not being afraid.  Not being afraid to show it, not being afraid to say, hey, I know what you feel, I have a shoulder, and an ear...
Showing the real you, the real emotions, gives others a possibility to open theirselves as well.

Tear off the mask, and dare to show people who you really are.  Your weakness will turn out to be your strength.  You will use your emotions, the way they are meant to be. To show the real you. To be who you are. Imperfect perfection.

Don't be afraid to show it, you will see that you are not alone!

Make this world Greta.

This commercial was in our central station, in June, and I liked it right away. It was in the time that the young Greta was becoming famous for her 'friday for future'  strikes and her activities for the world climate.
I understand the frustration of people,  when you see what happens with our planet. The pollution is immense, the solutions are far away, and, often hidden by power and money makers, who  prefer to let the things as they are, instead of changing.

History learns us, that people need to get on the street, if they want changes. In this case it started with a very young woman, and meanwhile she is known by everyone.  Friends and foes, I wanted to write, because, as appearantly is normal nowadays, who has ideas has to count with massive attacks, threathenings and insults at the person. Only very strong people can hold that.  And the people who simply stand for what they want and NOT give up. Who simply ignore the violence and not lead the attention away from where it is about making this world a better one. Not only for herself, but for everyone, who can be angry about that?

I see people that I really like, posting 'hate messages', like, the most irritating person of the year, and that is a mild one, all about that Greta Tunberg, who is worried.  Instaad of that we take her worries away, the world is trying to put her in a corner, to let her shut up her opionion.  Not so easy anymore, every day more people join and want solutions, where we ALL on coorporate. We can only improve our life, our future, if we work on it together. And our future is now, so we should hurry up with that! 

So, I see absolutely no reason to hate this woman, for what she is doing.
Why do people, who does not know her, personally, judge her on things that are from the category fake news?  Why are you nerved by seeing the words of a worried young woman?
I should respect you much more, if you not reply to her woreries, what are as well mine (and of MANY others) with hate and agression, but when you say, okay, I want you to go back to school, here I am, I take over the things that you are wishing for us all. Why?  Because it matters all of us. 

satties thoughts

It looks like I write here 7nly on bad says,but that is not true! 
There are no bad days, there are only bad thoughts! 

That fits to something that is in my mind for a longer time, where I wanted to write a poem about it. 
And today is the perfect day for it. 

This summer, when it was so horrible hot
I so much longed for a cloudy spot.
I woke up, seeing nothing but blue
Sweating and not knowing what to do

I did bow down my head
Suffering my self created pain
Please, let it rain
And see, what we, finally, did get

Blessing the depressing grey
Sadly staring to the rain, all day
It reminds me so
To a year ago

But there is something different, this year
The clammy clouds still are here
And the windows still look the same
The memories remain

Memories, at fighting the grey
Memories, struggling all day
And now, I eat the same cook
But now, with a different look

A few weeks ago, on a sunny day
I decided, that I wanted to stay
In the beautiful light
Warm, protected, sunny and bright

I thought about the upcoming grey
Decided that it not feels okay
To feel down all day
My decision came this way

No longer the darkness is stronger
Then the light, day and night
This winter I will smile
The happy feelings will last a while

Happiness is the magic word
Meditation is the chord
I realize I walk a thin line
I love to laugh the rain out of my brain
Where I find happiness again

(c) Hafri Poetry
07-10-2019

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