Friendship

How many friends do you have at your social media? Are you proud at the number?

We easily call people friends, but when you are honest, who can  say truly that (s)he has 300 friends or more?  

What do you expect from your friends?

I expect not much. I know that they are there, at the moment that I need them. They need one word, or maybe less, to know. And they know it is the other way arround as well, no matter how large the distance is.

I know my friends. And  when I see my friends list at face book, I think that they are just a few of the people that are stated on FaceBook as my friends.

And you know it, when you are one of them!

No tome to worry ...

I found this at one of my friends' Facebook, and it caught me right away. 

There are so many moments that I put the wrong priorities, and am nosing in other ones busiess, what in fact is none of my business.  Well, not in fact, it IS not!

But when friends, or people that i like, act in a way that I do not like, it is hard to shut up and say nothing. I expect from my friends that they say to me, hey, stop that, when I do things that annoy them.

 I kow that only very good friends shall do that, and that makes them such special friends.

However, I always like to show how I think, how I feel, what I do, and I shall not stop letting you know, when I think your doings are not what I like to see. 

That is the deal in being friends with me.  As well digital, and as well considering that digital friends are not the same as real friends.

Please excuse me now, I need a lot of loving to do (and there is football to watch, in a few minutes :-D)  

Play the game

Internet is awesome. 

We can communicate with people from all over the world, without leaving our home. We can share ours stories and not seldom people from far away become close friends. 

Things changed since that I first explored internet, about 28 years ago, but basically it are the same things, communiction with other people, for whatever purpose.

Games are part of the communiction as well. Cults like World of Warcraft, hypes like Pokemon and MarioCart, they come and go, some games remain longer.

Some people like to play games with other people. They try to fool others, with different expectations. 

Sometimes we get fooled, and we wonder how it happened.
We can choose then if we want to play the game, and foo the one who fooled us, or we can show our own limits.

When a boy tells a girl that she is the only one, and he almost forgets what girl he told it too, it is to the person involved to choose.  

Do you let yourself being used as part of the game?  Where is your border, from what point you do not accept the behavior of others anymore?

Soup!

Today it is chicken soup in Satty's kitchen.

I love chicken soup, because it is easy to make. The only thing that is not so easy, is to pull the meat from the chicken bones.  I learned a method, using two forks, but it still burns my finger tips, when I take the chicken out of the soup/boiling water and start the job.

I can hear some of you think, why not buy it, ready and prepared, well, just try the fresh made and compare it, and you know the answer.

Is choosing the difficult way, the best way?  Not always, I think. Sometimes it is good, and faster, to choose the easy way. Considering it, before you make the choice might be helpful. 

The chicken soup is medication as well. May the cold be beaten, healthy and without any pain, apart from my fingers. I think it is worth it.

Welcome

When I want to go home, I hope that I have the key, to open the door. When not, then I hope that my lovely lady is at home and opens the door for me.

When I go to friends, I hope that they are home. Normally I should announce that I want to come, and, depending on who it is, I will be welcomed, more or less enthusiastically.

If I am rude to people, they will think twice before they invite me. The chance that I come for a closed door, grows with the more angry my words get.
When I show violence in my words, about things that I do not like at my friends' place, they will take care that I can not come to their house.

Our house is the place where we should feel safe. Our country is where we should feel safe as well. When we are guests in otherones home, we shall accept the 'rules of the house'. And no one can expect from others that they allow violence being used in their house, against the ones that live there, that they love and care for.

In that view, I think the only way to get into contact with others is, when we show that we are willing to be friendly to each other. We not need to agree with everything, but we must be able to communicate, without abuse or violence, in word or deed.

Our door is wide open, for who wants to talk, for who wants to care. Our door is closed for who is a threat for our life

Relax

I should not be me, if I do not react at thngs that I can not understand.  Or at things that I do understand, but on what I have a strong opinion.

I do not necessarily need to argue, sometimes it is enough if I say, I don't like this. 

I have been trapped in many discussions, and the more words are said, the more emotions come up. Usually more words do not add new insights or new argiuements.  When another can not convince me from his (or her) right,  the words get harder and often louder.

I love discussions, in what people have opposite sights. When people listen to eachother they can learn and see why others think the way they do.

But... if I hear a polnish politician telling, in the parlement, that it is okay that women are paid less, becdaue they are smaller, because they are less strong, what is there then to argue for me?

I can NOT accept such rubbish, from no one, no matter american, or european, NO ONE should think less about people because of gender, sexual intrests or outlook.

I just need to say BOOOOOO!, and I do NOT need to argue further, because there is nothing to argue.  And, at the same time, others can do it better, look at the video I add here.  Simply facts, that fully enpower the idiocy of someone.

When a country does not accept critical notes, do we then need to accept that those people vent their opinion here, and insist at the freedom of speech, that is here and rather not in their own country?

Do not point to others. Clean your own house first, before you judge that of others. Talking about that, this blog is another procastination ;-)   Back to work, Hans, so far about the big world around me :)

-- >  click here to see the polnish polician spaak, and watch the response <-- br="">

Fooling yourself

There are nice psychologic games you can play.

When you are always agressive, and all the sudden, for one moment, are not, it might confuse the people arlound you. Many might get hope that the person is not that bad at all, and that things might turn out better then they thought.

I am always supsicious when such happens. 

Someone, who constantly showed agressive behavior, in words and deeds, before he achieved his goal and after it, and then all the sudden gets mild, when he can not do else as talk with his opponents.  What are his mild words worth, can you trust such a person?  

Some people wiill trust him again.  But as long as that trust is only based at words, and not at facts, how much reliable this is?
When you trust those words, you might be fooling yourself... Again.  He knows it happened successfully before.

Don't fool yourself. See the facts. Fight against what you dislike